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Coming Home to Yourself

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Wisdom of Others

Writings and words that have shaped this work.

Unconditional Love

I leave you free to be yourself, to think your thoughts, indulge your taste, follow your inclinations and behave in ways you decide are to your liking. You have that freedom and you have my love in the process.

— Anthony de Mello

Acceptance

In life one plays the hand one is dealt to the best of one's ability. Those who insist on playing, not the hand they were given, but the one they insist they should have been dealt — these are life's failures. We are not asked if we will play. That is not an option. Play we must. The option is how.

Our Deepest Fear

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

— Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love (often attributed to Nelson Mandela's 1994 inaugural speech)

Credenda

Turn away from the crowd and its fruitless pursuit of fame and gold. Never look back as you close your door to the sorry tumult of greed and ambition. Wipe away your tears of failure and misfortune. Lay aside your heavy load and rest until your heart is still. Be at peace; already it is later than you think, for your earthly life, at best, is only the blink of an eye between two eternities. Be unafraid; nothing here can harm you except yourself. Do that which you dread and cherish those victories with pride. Concentrate your energy — to be everywhere is to be nowhere. Be jealous of your time, since it is your greatest treasure. Reconsider your goals; before you set your heart too much on anything, examine how happy they are who already possess what you desire. Love your family and count your blessings; reflect how eagerly they would be sought if you did not have them. Put aside your impossible dreams and complete the task at hand, no matter how distasteful. All great achievement comes from working and waiting. Be patient — God's delays are never God's denials. Hold on. Hold fast. Know that your paymaster is always near. What you sow, good or evil, that you will reap. Never blame your condition on others; you are what you are through your choice alone. Learn to live with honest poverty, if you must, and turn to more important matters than transporting gold to your grave. Never meet trouble halfway. Anxiety is the rust of life; when you add tomorrow's burden to today's, their weight becomes unbearable. Avoid the mourner's bench, and give thanks instead for your defeats — you would not have them if you did not need them. Always learn from others; he who teaches himself has a fool for a master. Be careful. Do not overload your conscience. Conduct your life as if it were spent in an arena filled with tattlers. Avoid boasting; if you see anything in you that buffs you with pride, look closer and you will find more than enough to make you humble. Be wise. Realize that all men are not created equal, for there is no equality in nature, yet no man was ever born whose work was not born with him. Work every day as if it were your first, yet tenderly treat the lives you touch as if they will end at midnight. Love everyone, even those who deny you, for hate is a luxury you cannot afford. Seek out those in need; learn that he who delivers with one hand will gather with two. Be of good cheer. Above all, remember that very little is needed to make a happy life. Look up. Reach out. Cling simply to God and journey quietly on your pathway to forever, with charity and a smile. When you depart, it will be said that your legacy was a better world than the one that you found.

— Og Mandino and Buddy Kaye

12 Principles of Attitudinal Healing

1 · The essence of our being is love. Love cannot be hindered by what is merely physical. We believe the mind has no limits, nothing is impossible, all disease is potentially reversible. And because love is eternal, death need not be viewed fearfully.

2 · Health is inner peace. Healing is letting go of fear. To make changing the body our goal is to fail to recognize that our single goal is peace of mind.

3 · Giving and receiving are the same. When our attention is on giving and joining with others, fear is removed and we accept healing in ourselves.

4 · We can let go of the past and the future. We experience inner peace when we let go of our attachment to the painful past and the fearful future, and learn to live in the present.

5 · Now is the only time there is. Pain, grief, depression, guilt, and other forms of fear disappear when the mind is focused in loving peace on this instant.

6 · We learn to love ourselves and others by forgiving rather than judging. Forgiveness is the way to true health and happiness. When we choose to see everyone as a teacher of forgiveness, each moment gives us an opportunity for happiness, peace, and love.

7 · We can become love finders rather than faultfinders. Regardless of what another person's behavior might be, we can always choose to see only the light of love in that person.

8 · We can be peaceful inside regardless of what is happening outside. Despite the chaos in our lives, we can choose to be peaceful, knowing that we are connected to and sustained by our loving, peaceful source.

9 · We are students and teachers to each other. Peace comes to us when we recognize and demonstrate that all our relationships are equal.

10 · We can focus on the whole of our life rather than the fragments. It is an illusion to believe that our lives are separate from each other. Healing is focusing on our interconnectedness with each other and all living things.

11 · Because love is eternal, death need not be viewed as fearful. We begin to let go of our fear of death when we truly believe that what is real never changes, and that love is always present.

12 · We can always see ourselves and others as extending love or calling for it. Rather than seeing anger and attack, it is always possible for us to recognize a call for help, and answer with love.

— Gerald Jampolsky, Teach Only Love

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